Comments on: Do You Burn with the Envy of Others? http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/ bly.com direct marketing blog Wed, 08 Feb 2012 14:52:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: passer by http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-679656 passer by Wed, 26 May 2010 00:09:18 +0000 http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-679656 everytime I see my friends or my junior do cool performance, I burn with envy. I can't help but thinking 'I want to be as good as them too'. Such thoughts literally make me dizzy. It's somewhat disturbing. I know I should be motivated, but somehow I'm not. everytime I see my friends or my junior do cool performance, I burn with envy. I can’t help but thinking ‘I want to be as good as them too’. Such thoughts literally make me dizzy. It’s somewhat disturbing. I know I should be motivated, but somehow I’m not.

]]> By: Sante http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676533 Sante Sat, 06 Jun 2009 08:04:46 +0000 http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676533 Life is a journey to an unknown destiny. It's a hike in the mountains with a lot of other people we don't know but find ourselves traveling with them and we all have a different attitude about this trip: some of us look up at the hills and mountain tops as a challenge wondering what can be seen from up there, others couldn't care less and take it easy, some will do whatever they can to use you to help themselves ... and there is always someone ahead of you. I think it is important to enjoy the journey and make a difference to those who surround you. I live in a mountainous region of Italy now well know all around the world, in the city of L'Aquila, on APril 6th we were hit by a devastating earthquake that put me and thousands of other families out of house and home - that day my journey suddenly changed as I lost friends and people very very close to me, people who went to bed that SUnday evening and never woke up. Now my journey is different, I look upon those who suffer with different eyes, more compassion and understanding, a greater intent to really help and be useful, an even closer working relationship with mu Clients. Yesterday I saw a great video - you can find searching for: Flawless - Dance Act - Britains Got Talent 2009 They said a phrase that touched me: Chase your DREAM, not your COMPETITION ... Hope you enjoyed my thoughts and I wish you all a peaceful week end. Life is a journey to an unknown destiny. It’s a hike in the mountains with a lot of other people we don’t know but find ourselves traveling with them and we all have a different attitude about this trip: some of us look up at the hills and mountain tops as a challenge wondering what can be seen from up there, others couldn’t care less and take it easy, some will do whatever they can to use you to help themselves … and there is always someone ahead of you.

I think it is important to enjoy the journey and make a difference to those who surround you.

I live in a mountainous region of Italy now well know all around the world, in the city of L’Aquila, on APril 6th we were hit by a devastating earthquake that put me and thousands of other families out of house and home – that day my journey suddenly changed as I lost friends and people very very close to me, people who went to bed that SUnday evening and never woke up.

Now my journey is different, I look upon those who suffer with different eyes, more compassion and understanding, a greater intent to really help and be useful, an even closer working relationship with mu Clients.

Yesterday I saw a great video – you can find searching for:

Flawless – Dance Act – Britains Got Talent 2009

They said a phrase that touched me:

Chase your DREAM, not your COMPETITION …

Hope you enjoyed my thoughts and I wish you all a peaceful week end.

]]> By: Diana http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676515 Diana Thu, 04 Jun 2009 18:44:48 +0000 http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676515 Comparisons are helpful if they teach us something. How else to know what is possible than by learning from others? But there's a difference between comparison and envy. Envy isn't helpful. I like what Bill said--since NLP and critical thought can help us lead better lives. I've adopted the phrase "observe and record" when studying my own and other people's behavior. It helps me focus on learning instead of judging. Comparisons are helpful if they teach us something. How else to know what is possible than by learning from others?

But there’s a difference between comparison and envy. Envy isn’t helpful.

I like what Bill said–since NLP and critical thought can help us lead better lives. I’ve adopted the phrase “observe and record” when studying my own and other people’s behavior. It helps me focus on learning instead of judging.

]]> By: Greg http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676511 Greg Thu, 04 Jun 2009 01:00:10 +0000 http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676511 I don't but then I have never been particularly ambitious -- other than to earn a good living. I have never been interested in power or influence over others. I do think about things I may have done differently if I had more information at the time I was making decisions or how I may have made a better decision had I thought more clearly at the time. But even with that I don't pine over it. I do envy people who have managed to get to my age and stay thin and fit. I wonder how they do since most people I know were not able to do so. I don't necessarily admire them or am envy but I do wonder about people like Bill Clinton or John Kerry who obviously knew they wanted power and fame at a very early age, before they left high school. Kerry grew up in that milieu but Clinton did not. I don’t but then I have never been particularly ambitious — other than to earn a good living. I have never been interested in power or influence over others.

I do think about things I may have done differently if I had more information at the time I was making decisions or how I may have made a better decision had I thought more clearly at the time. But even with that I don’t pine over it.

I do envy people who have managed to get to my age and stay thin and fit. I wonder how they do since most people I know were not able to do so.

I don’t necessarily admire them or am envy but I do wonder about people like Bill Clinton or John Kerry who obviously knew they wanted power and fame at a very early age, before they left high school. Kerry grew up in that milieu but Clinton did not.

]]> By: bill perry http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676510 bill perry Thu, 04 Jun 2009 00:27:43 +0000 http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676510 Bob: I think there's a "Healthy" way to compare yourself to other. I am from the NLP school of thought, and I think that the trick is to just look beyond the person and find out what it is ABOUT them you admire so much. See if it's a truly healthy/useful trait, and if so, work on putting more of that into your life. I admire Warren Buffet immensely for his ability to not get mired in the next big thing. He's pretty much been on the same path, with a bit of flexibility, for years. If I could just do that for 6 months or a year, I think my life would change immensely. Does that make sense? Bob:
I think there’s a “Healthy” way to compare yourself to other.

I am from the NLP school of thought, and I think that the trick is to just look beyond the person and find out what it is ABOUT them you admire so much. See if it’s a truly healthy/useful trait, and if so, work on putting more of that into your life.

I admire Warren Buffet immensely for his ability to not get mired in the next big thing. He’s pretty much been on the same path, with a bit of flexibility, for years.

If I could just do that for 6 months or a year, I think my life would change immensely.

Does that make sense?

]]> By: Sean http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676508 Sean Wed, 03 Jun 2009 21:29:25 +0000 http://bly.com/blog/general/do-you-burn-with-the-envy-of-others/#comment-676508 I compare myself to others. It's human nature. You compare yourself to those richer and more successful, and I have compared myself to you Bob in the same manner. I think it can be healthy if it forces you to identify what you value (as you mention) and to better articulate personal goals. It becomes unhealthy when, during the process, you lose sight of what you can and cannot control. I compare myself to others. It’s human nature. You compare yourself to those richer and more successful, and I have compared myself to you Bob in the same manner.

I think it can be healthy if it forces you to identify what you value (as you mention) and to better articulate personal goals. It becomes unhealthy when, during the process, you lose sight of what you can and cannot control.

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