I was arguing with AB, my gourmet friend, about meat, of all
He said Ruth Chris porterhouse steak is the best meat money can
I said I preferred the chopped liver at my local deli.
“But steak is better than chopped liver!” AB said as if
proclaiming the gospel truth. Perhaps you agree with him. I
think most people do.
But the fact remains: AB should not have said steak is better
than chopped liver. What he should have said was: “I like steak
better than chopped liver.” Because food preferences are just
that – preferences, not facts.
Unfortunately, too many of us defend matters of opinion as
vehemently as if they were commandments etched in stone. This is
especially true in political arguments between liberals and
conservatives. Just listen to Rush Limbaugh or Michael Savage.
How about you?
Do you have a burning urge to prove to others that you are right
all the time?
Perhaps you should not.
Having strongly held opinions is one thing … but being overly
militant in defending them is something else.
Humans have always been contentious by nature.
Now the Internet has become a breeding ground for displaying
unstinting bickering and argument for all to see.
The next time you’re about to foam at the mouth because you
disagree with something someone said online or elsewhere, take a
breath … and ask yourself why it’s so important for you to argue
with the other guy.
A lot of folks I encounter would say that the reason is simple:
they know they are right and feel obliged to correct the other
The problem is that often, when we think we are right, that is
only our opinion … and it is not a fact – like steak vs. chopped
For what it’s worth to you, I follow a different approach,
especially in business: It is based on the understanding that I
am not always right and in fact am often wrong.
The result is an open-mindedness to other opinions and differing
ideas many people sometimes lack.
This flexibility of thought was developed based on my 3+ decades
in direct mail copywriting.
Being a direct response copywriter is a humbling experience, for
the following reason: there are times when a mailing you think
of as a sure winner bombs, and conversely, when the mailing you
don’t have much confidence in turns out to be a home run.
This goes to show that our opinions are only that – opinions –
and are often rendered inconsequential by the reality of actual
According to an old maxim, the only two things that are certain
in this world are death and taxes.
I’m not sure the list of what is certain is quite that limited.
But the list of things that are matters of opinion – and not
matters of absolute fact – is probably much larger than most
At least, that’s my opinion. What do you think?