The 4 Secrets of a Successful and Happy Life

Decades ago, in Ted Nicholas’ newsletter, I read an article that outlined the 4 conditions required to enjoy a happy and successful life.

I have since read versions of these rules many times from numerous authors, and through this and my own limited experiences, believe them to be true.

So without further ado, here are the 4 things you need for a happy and successful life (note: the list below gives you WHAT you need, but not HOW to get them; that will be covered in upcoming blog posts):


A greater-than-average income and net worth free you from money worries, increase your self-esteem, and give you greater security and peace of mind than 97% of the rest of the world enjoys.


The second key to happiness is to find a career that you not only enjoy but are actually passionate about.

As the late Les Paul said, if you do your hobby for a living, you?ll never work a day in your life.


Your life will not be complete without friends, family, and others you care deeply about and who care deeply about you.


In a way, health is the most important of the 4 criteria, for without good health, it is exceedingly difficult to attain the other 3 ? or enjoy them if you already have them.

Are there any items here that you do not agree with? Any missing that you would add?


25 thoughts on “The 4 Secrets of a Successful and Happy Life

  • Raghu: I should have stated that the above are not in any particular order. I didn’t put health first because you need ALL 4 in good measure, and not everyone would choose health first.

  • @JA – Please leave Me out of such innocent things as helpful lists/blogs like this. Save it for something more appropriate, but even then, try not to wear out your welcome by force-feeding it to everyone around you.

    Believe it or not, some people do just fine with the 4 items — and only those 4 — listed by Mr. Bly.

  • Whoever is “speaking” for God is doing a bad job of it.

    Mr. Bly asked if we would add anything to this list. JA put in his two cents like any individual with opinions and the freedom to express them.

    You don’t have to agree, but must you insult? Don’t answer that. I don’t intend to get into a pissing match with you (excuse my expression)

  • I have to agree with all the previous comments except the one from God! You did ask for opinions…..

    I am The Happiest Person I Know, and one of the reasons for this is comment number one. My friends and family would be shocked to read this, as it’s not something I discuss, or bash people over the head with, and I certainly wasn’t exposed to any religion in my upbringing. I still am not religious (in fact I disagree with organized religion)yet I have found a wonderful relationship which sustains me throughout my life. So, though it’s not something I readily discuss willy-nilly, if you were to ask me what makes me The Happiest Person I Know, the first reason would be this beautiful relationship I have with God. End of bashing!

    Live Life Happy!

  • I agree with you Bob and I’d add a few more items in no particular order. Happiness is nothing more than good health and a short memory. Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get. The three essentials to happiness are: Something to do; someone to love; and something to hope for. These are some of the things important to me.

    Being in love and having an unconditional love in your life.
    Having a true companion and a few best friends.
    Belly laughs every day.
    Being involved in a worthy, charitable cause.
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    Learning to relax more than once a week.
    Stop worrying and start living in the present.
    Find the real reason for your own existence and ACT on it.
    And last not but least–tadah! (Trumpets anyone?)
    Cultivate a sense of humor and learn to poke fun at yourself!

    In summary, it all boils down to this: It’s mind over matter and in my case I have no mind it doesn’t matter:-)

    Dr. Andrew Linick—The Copyolgist®

  • Hi Bob,

    Good stuff! The Book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible agrees with and emphasizes the importance of these 4 things to a satisfying life. The main emphasis of the book from the author is that these can only be truly enjoyed and appreciated in their deepest sense when done in relationship with God. Ecclesiastes approaches the importance of relationship with God from all sorts of perspectives but stops short of telling the reader what activities must be performed (if any) to participate in that relationship. To summarize, I think your 4 secrets are spot on. Ecclesiastes may gently add perspectives on competition and death to your list, but I think these perspectives only serve to enhance the 4 secrets. Relationship with God may be found to help us each make the most of them.

    I look forward to your future comments on how to achieve the 4 secrets. Interestingly – Ecclesisates does not take for granted that achievement of all 4 is possible for everyone, only that those who achieve them should enjoy them. It also assumes levels of achievement will vary. slr

  • I agree with you about the points you have already mentioned but would expand on a couple of the topics. Not only would money give you security but it would give you freedom to increase your confidence to have a successful life overall. The other topic that I would expand would be relationships. I would mention a healthy sexual life with the person you would care for. I think sex is an important thing to any relationship to have a successful one.

  • For most of us, the # 1 thing you must have is plenty of money to satisfy both your needs and wants. Sadly, many of us really consider money as the main source of happiness in life.

    I totally agree with Les Paul point of view. Currently, I’m doing what I want in order for me to support my day to day needs. You know what, I’m happy with my work. Though, I’m aiming for more. The important thing here is I’m enjoying what I’m doing.

  • I agree with your list and for me the top most secret to everyone’s success is MONEY. You can actually control your life once you have money. It can help you make the difference.

  • Money is necessity but its relationship that ultimately gives you happiness. when i say relationship it means your relation with everyone – your friends and family

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