One of the differences between traditional print writing and
online writing is the principle of “transparency.”

Transparency means telling the reader all sorts of personal
things about the writer.

Why should the reader care about you? I don’t know.

In the good old days, my mentor SR wrote:

“Don’t tell the reader what YOU did or like. Talk about her
fears, her concerns, her desires, her dreams.”

That’s still the primary interest of today’s prospects. But now,
they also want to know more about you.

A possible reason: the Internet is a more interactive, two-way
communication medium than print.

Therefore, your readers have a stronger desire to connect
directly to you, and part of that is to know more about you.

So in the interest of transparency, here are 21 things you may
be curious or interested to know about me – or not (I am not
100% sold on this transparency thing):

1-I am 5’7″ and have a hang-up about being short. If I could
change 7 things in my life, one would be to become six feet tall.

2-I embarrassingly weigh a little over 200 pounds, and have
struggled with a weight problem for the past few years (I used
to be 175).

3-I absolutely love my work, which primarily is freelance
copywriting and secondarily book writing, Internet information
marketing, and speaking. There is nothing on the planet I would
rather do than write, and my favorite writing is copywriting.

4-One of my great writing pleasures is writing essays. Years
ago, Thomas Nelson published a book of my essays, Count Your
Blessings, though it was hardly a best-seller.

5-I am a hardcore introvert. I like being surrounded by my wife
and kids, but other than that, I prefer to spend time alone.
Prolonged exposure to people wears me out.

6-Aside from writing, my favorite activity is reading The New
York Review of Books. I read every word of every article in
every issue, and if you know NYRB, you know that’s a lot of
words!

7-Unlike some entrepreneurs who work 24/7, I seem to need the
normal amount of sleep, although I often have trouble sleeping.
One of my guilty pleasures is I take an hour nap on the
weekends, and it is the best sleep I have. I agree with Fran
Lebowitz, who said, “I love sleep because it is both pleasant
and safe to use.”

8-My favorite movie is One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest. My
favorite comedy film is Rat Race.

9-I also love horror movies, especially the old ones. My
favorite horror movie is Dracula Has Risen from the Grave with
Christopher Lee.

10-My favorite book is Death of a Salesman by Arthur Miller. Of
course, that’s a play. My favorite novel is The Prince of Tides
by Pat Conroy, who is also my favorite writer.

11-I love science fiction and have a web site dedicated to it,
www.sciencefictionprediction.com. My favorite science fiction
novel is Lord of Light by Roger Zelazny. I’m also a fan of
Harlan Ellison and Isaac Asimov, who is my writing role model
for his prolificity and clear prose.

12-Although I am not a hardcore Trekkie in that I do not go to
conventions, I love Star Trek, and I wrote a trivia book for
HarperCollins titled The Ultimate Unauthorized Star Trek Quiz
Book.

13–For decades my hobby was keeping fish tanks, both saltwater
and fresh, and at one point I had 4 tanks, including one with a
freshwater stingray and another with an eel. Now I have cut down
to one 92-gallon tank. I also have a web site dedicated to this
hobby: www.aquariumdetective.com

14-When I was a kid my passion was science, in particular my
chemistry set. And yes, I have a web site on this too:
www.mychemset.com. I have a B.S. in chemical engineering from
the University of Rochester.

15-I used to enjoy playing chess with my kids, but now in their
20s, they have lost interest. So I don’t play anymore. No great
tragedy; I am not that good anyway.

16-When in high school, I played clarinet and baritone sax, and
I was not terrible. I enjoy listening to bari sax, especially
Gerry Mulligan. A big thrill of my life was meeting Benny
Goodman in an elevator at a club where my father had taken me to
listen to the Buddy Rich band.

17-I used to listen to music in the office 12 hours a day. Now I
prefer silence when working. But I still love a wide range of
music: jazz, classical, rock, and pop. I occasionally listen to
and enjoy a Barry Manilow CD. So sue me.

18-I love dogs. Our golden retriever, Princess, died a couple of
months ago and I am still not over it.

19-A few people I find funny: Louis CK, Demetri Martin, Sean
Morey, Ricky Gervais, Seth McFarlane, Ray Romano. I like Chris
Rock but his mouth is too foul for my taste.

20-If I could do one thing over again in life, I would have had
my kids in my 20s instead of my 30s. But my wife had cancer when
we were young, so we couldn’t.

21-My favorite food on the planet is a kosher hot dog. And yes,
I wrote a book about them: All-American Frank: a History of the
Hot Dog (Publish America). Oranges come in second.

Ted Nicholas, Russ Dalbey, and other success writers have in
numerous publications identified – accurately, in my opinion –
the 4 elements needed to attain a happy life:

1-Relationships … you need to have family and friends – people
you love and people you like.

John Donne said “No man is an island.” Even introverts, loners,
and recluses need people in their lives — and interaction with
them.

Having friends not only makes people happy but can even improve
mental health: A study from the Harvard School of Public Health
found that people with the most active social lives had the
slowest rate of memory decline.

I have a few good friends, but I am not very social, and I don’t
see them much. We communicate mainly by phone and e-mail.

My wife and I both feel that our two sons, Alex and Stephen, are
the center of our life.

2-Money … Mark Twain did NOT, as many people believe, say that
money is the root of all evil. What Twain really said was: “Lack
of money is the root of all evil.”

Many people erroneously believe that rich people think of
nothing but money.

The fact is that those who think constantly about money are
those who do not have enough of it. I’ve seen this up close: I
have relatives who are bankrupt, and every discussion comes
around to lack of money and how it hamstrings them in daily life.

Like many people, I grew up without much money. We were not
poor, but many others we knew obviously had more than we did.
But I never had to worry where my next meal would come from –
literally, because my mother is a great cook.

3-Work … next to my family, there is nothing as key to my
happiness than loving the work I do.

In my early life I held corporate jobs. I did not like working
in a corporation, and the days passed with glacial speed.

I have been a full-time freelance copywriter since 1982, and it
is still loads of fun to me every day I do it. What could be
better than that? Conversely, to me there are few things worse
in life than hating your job.

Thomas Carlyle: “Blessed is he who has found his work; let him
ask no other blessedness.”

Noel Coward: “Work is more fun than fun.”

4-Health … it is impossible to fully enjoy life if you are
seriously ill or even sick a lot of the time.

There is more health advice out there today than at any time in
human history. The trick is evaluating the source and knowing
what to listen to.

I have said in other e-mails that if you wake up in the morning,
and you are in good health and have a roof over your head, it’s
a good day.

I know this from having several health scares with my wife,
including the time she was misdiagnosed with stage 4 ovarian
cancer and told (erroneously) that she had only months to live.
Our whole world was destroyed by that one sentence until, many
weeks later, we found out she was OK.

I find that enjoying the 4 conditions listed above is not a
given. Most of us have to work for them, me included. Here’s
what I recommend:

>> Family – treasure your spouse and your children. Spend lots
of time with your children when they are young and still want
you.

>> Friends – don’t let lack of time make friendships disappear.
Make a proactive effort to reach out to and stay in touch with
friends. In this I often fail.

>> Money – make it a goal to become financially comfortable. I
suggest you create a plan to amass a $2 million net worth by age
55. That is made easier by earning an annual income of $200,000
or more.

>> Work – find the intersection of your passion and the needs of
the marketplace. As Aristotle said, “Therein lies your
vocation.” In other words, find something you love that others
will pay you handsomely for. Dr. Seuss points out: “You have
brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer
yourself in any direction you choose.”

>> Health – guys especially, don’t avoid going to the doctor
because you’re afraid or you are being macho. When in his 60s,
my father waited too long to have a lump on his leg examined.
When he finally went to the doctor, it turned out to be sarcoma,
and he died 18 months later after a prolonged and painful
illness. During my dad’s long decline, no one in our immediate
family was very happy.

When my kids were little, they would crack themselves up by
preparing strange concoctions in the kitchen, feeding them to
me, and watching me grimace.

My eyes were closed, so luckily, I never knew what I was about
to ingest.

One time, when it was dog biscuits, I was shocked at how
terrible they tasted, despite pictures and copy on the box that
made them look like a gourmet meal at a 5-star restaurant.

I pondered that dogs were willing to do a lot – come, sit,
fetch, roll over, play dead – for really small rewards.

And then it gradually dawned on me that people are the same way
– a fact you can use to good advantage in your marketing.

Example: back in the 80s, a friend of mine worked at a medical
ad agency.

The agency specialized in creating direct mail (DM) that invited
doctors to medical symposia. These seminars were supposed to
deliver content on the treatment of a specific disease, but the
bottom-line goal was to promote the sponsor’s drug.

My friend did an A/B split test with a DM invitation to a
symposium. The only difference between the test cells was that A
offered a free pocket diary as a bonus gift to doctors who
attended and B did not offer the premium.

When the agency mailed the test, mailing A offering the free
pocket diary generated 6 times more response than mailing B
without it. We were all amazed because it was a cheap little
pocket diary that cost the client about a dollar each, and the
audience was doctors earning six-figure incomes.

“Don’t be amazed,” the client told us. “When doctors at our
symposia ask our staff where the pay phone is, nine times out of
ten they also ask us if we have a quarter they can use to make a
call!” (Remember pay phones?)

In my first job out of college, I worked in the marketing
department for Westinghouse Defense, whose major client was the
U.S. military. We were tasked with maintaining a supply cabinet
full of promotional items for Westinghouse salespeople to give
to the high-ranking military personnel who were our prospects.

The most in-demand item was Westinghouse golf tees – plain white
tees imprinted with the famous “circle W” Westinghouse logo in
blue. The salespeople and their customers were so crazy for free
golf tees we could not keep them in stock.

People, even wealthy ones, are eager to get free stuff and
discounts. Recently a new bank opened in the upper-class town
next to ours. They did the usual free balloons and hot dogs for
the grand opening, and their parking lot was packed to
overflowing. I love hot dogs, but I’m not going to fight for a
parking space to get a free one.

Any free gift given with inquiry or order is called a “premium.”
A “freemium” is a free gift enclosed with the mailing; e.g.,
rosary beads or a crucifix enclosed with a Catholic charities
fundraising letter.

A “keeper” is a premium the consumer keeps even if he returns
the product for a refund; e.g. The Folio Society offers a free
2-volume book set The Greek Myths when you order the Shorter
Oxford English Dictionary for $19.95.

They ship the whole thing when you mail the return coupon from
their ad; no payment with order is required. If you wish, you
can just pack up and return the Dictionary when it arrives,
pulling out and keeping The Greek Myths as a totally free gift.

I know: I’ve done it. A consumer who orders just to get the
keeper premium and then returns the product is known as a
“premium bandit.” Some direct marketers identify premium bandits
with a code attached to the record in their database, and do not
fulfill the premium bandit’s requests for keeper premiums.

Premium bandits are not actually thieves because all we are
doing is taking advantage of an offer the marketer willingly
makes.

The marketer knows in advance that a small percentage of orders
will be from premium bandits, and this is part of their cost of
doing business. “No biggish,” as the kids say.

I can also tell you that on more than one occasion, I was
planning just on keeping the keeper premium, but when I saw the
product, I liked it so much that I changed my mind and paid the
invoice.

The premiums that work best (a) have a high perceived value, (b)
are unique, and (c) are relevant to the product.

A great example is Gevalia Coffee giving away a beautiful
high-quality coffee maker (I know; we have two) when you signed
up for monthly shipments of gourmet flavored coffee. We ordered
to get the coffee maker, but the flavors were so good we kept
our subscription for a few months, which is what Gevalia was
banking on.

Action step: think about what items would make good premiums
complementing your offers. Source these items, incorporate them
into your offer copy, and measure the change in response rate
vs. the same offer with no premium.

The question that has always vexed me most is when a subscriber
writes and asks:

“Should I become a freelance copywriter?”

“Should I start an Internet marketing business?”

“Should I [fill in the blank here]?”

Now, if you ask me HOW to do these things, I can give you some
solid guidance.

But if someone asked me SHOULD they do this or that, I used to
throw up my hands and say – “How can I tell you that? It’s
entirely up to you!”

However, when I was reading the New York Review of Books
(3/7/13, p. 46) last week, I came across a quote in an article
by the late Isaiah Berlin that I think gives a useful answer to
the question of “Should I?”

Berlin wrote: “One chooses as one chooses because (1) one knows
what one wants, and (2) is ready to pay the price.” (I added the
numbers.)

As for the first reason, (1) choosing because “one knows what
one wants,” I would argue that you already know what you want or
you wouldn’t be asking me if you should do it.

Conversely, if you have spent years thinking about a thing and
have taken no forward action, you probably don’t want it that
badly.

It reminds me of a story about Mozart.

Supposedly a young man in his late teens or so approached Mozart
and said “Maestro! I want to write a symphony! Please, please
teach me how to write a symphony!”

Mozart looked him over and said “You’re too young to write a
symphony.”

“But Maestro Mozart, you wrote a symphony when you were twelve
years old,” the teen pointed out.

“Yes, but I didn’t have to ask how!” Mozart replied.

If you really want to do a thing, you will pursue it and do it.
If not, then not. You won’t have to ask me or anyone else
whether you should.

The second part of Berlin’s statement says that you will choose
something if you are (2) “ready to pay the price.”

This price may be:

** Long years of education, practice, or apprenticeship before
attaining your wish.

** Facing the possibility that, after all that time and effort
and investment, you may not succeed.

** Taking a financial gamble as you invest in your new venture
or dream – a gamble you could lose.

** Sacrificing time with family, leisure time, and other
activities in the relentless pursuit of your vision.

** Risking the disapproval of friends and family who do not
support you in your quest and say you are foolish to do it.

** Becoming so successful that you alienate those friends and
family members who are less successful and resent your
accomplishment.

** Taking so long to reach your goal that by the time you
achieve it the other pleasures of life have passed you by and
now you are too old to enjoy your success anyway.

If after reading the above list with your eyes wide open, you
agree that these are prices you are willing to pay to achieve
your dreams — then I encourage you to go full steam ahead.

On the other hand, if you quiver with fear after reading this
list or want to put your head under the covers, you may not have
the constitution required for entrepreneurial or artistic
ventures or similar grand aims. And perhaps you are better off
staying where and as you are.

One other observation: a psychologist once told me people do not
take action until the pain of their current condition – whether
poverty, boredom, fear, or unhappiness — exceeds their fear of
change.

I think his observation is right on the money.

A couple of weeks ago, in a quiet old cemetery next to a horse
farm, TS, my father-in-law, was buried.

I think TS felt unaccomplished in that he never achieved his
most fervent dream: having a play of his produced in New York.

Oliver Wendell Holmes once said: “Most people die with their
music still in them.”

But I give TS more credit than he gave himself.

TS took 2 years off from work to write his play, move from Maine
to New York City, and attempt to get it produced.

Yes, the play never ran, but it was not for lack of trying.

In this, TS was ahead of the curve: at least he sat down, wrote,
and completed his play.

I know many people who want to write a play or a novel, or
launch a business or create a product, and never get the thing
finished — or worse, even started.

That includes me.

I have always dreamed of being a published novelist, but have
never had a novel published.

That’s due in large part to my never having written a novel.

I made a few false starts, but never got past the first ten
pages on any of them.

My excuse I tell people is that I never had an idea for a story
I thought could sustain a novel-length work.

The other excuse is that I already write all the time, so had no
time for fiction.

I can’t give you a formula that guarantees you will be
successful as a playwright, novelist, inventor, entrepreneur, or
anything else.

But I can give you a formula that guarantees your failure: don’t
write the play or novel, or start the business, or build the
invention.

I am ashamed to say that this is the formula I followed in my
career as a novelist, with the results indicated above.

I close with this advice from Johann Wolfgang von Goethe:

“Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has
genius and power and magic in it.”

Do as I say. Not as I do.

On May 13, 2013, the U.S. will celebrate National Thank-a-Teacher Day, a day on which you are supposed to thank a teacher who made a difference in your life:

 http://www.nea.org/grants/1359.htm

 I urge you to participate in this goodwill gesture for 2 reasons:

 1—It will make you feel really good.

 2—It may mean more to your teacher than you could ever imagine.

 I also suggest you do it now. If you wait until May 13, the official date of National Thank-a-Teacher Day, you may forget.

 Years ago, I dedicated my book on time management, “101 Ways to Make Every Second Count” (Career Press) to EB, my 10^th grade English teacher.

 Instead of mailing the book to her, I visited my old high school and waited outside her classroom door until the period was over to present it in person.

 I said, “Ms. B____, I don’t know if you remember me, but I was in your 10^th grade English class many years ago. You taught me what good writing is. Well, I became a writer and have had dozens of books published. Here is my latest, and as you can see, it is dedicated to you. In fact, I have you to thank for my career.”

 I handed her the book open to the dedication which read: “To EB, who taught me how to write.”

 I could see she was visibly moved and she expressed her appreciation.

 I got the feeling that (a) teaching can often be a thankless job (she said words to that effect) and (b) having a student express appreciation for the teaching he received was an uncommon occurrence.

 I felt I had done a good thing by taking the time to thank her as I did, and to this day I am glad I did it. The occasion remains vivid in my memory.

 My advice to you is: think about a teacher or mentor who helped you and made a positive difference in your life, seek her out, tell her what her counsel or wisdom meant to you, and thank her for it. You will get a lasting “high” out of doing this.

P.S. I also posted an appreciation for one of my old college professors on the University of Rochester web site, though I don’t know if he has seen it:

 http://meliora.rochester.edu/alumni_page.html?encqid=be3159ad04564bfb90db9e32851ebf9c

I was watching a video of Elvis singing How Great Thou Art on  YouTube and a banner ad popped up over the video. It advertised a 35th anniversary Elvis Presley package for $125. Makes sense.

Then I watched another video, this one of Elvis singing Bridge Over Troubled Water. A banner popped up advertising Amicus Practice Management Software for law firms.

What sense does that make? How is that related to Elvis other than he had lawyers? How are these decisions made?

Amicus has such a narrow target market (lawyers), yet their banner is all over the place. The waste in their banner advertising must be enormous, since most of the people it reaches are not lawyers.

This may be the most important tip I give you this year, and not one person in a hundred is aware of it:

 If you use a gasoline generator when your power goes out, do NOT hook up your PC to it.

 Gasoline generators produce “dirty” power, meaning it fluctuates in voltage to a level unacceptable to a PC’s sensitive circuitry.

 My PC guy said that after hurricane Sandy, he had 25 clients with PC problems, all of whom connected their computers to a gasoline generator – including me.

 I was lucky: he got my computer back online in a few hours, and the only damage was to my back-up driver.

 Every other client had severe damage, from destruction of the PC motherboard to complete loss of data on their hard drives.

 The reason I wasn’t wiped out is that the subpar current from our gasoline generator did not allow my PC to operate steadily, so I couldn’t even use it. Turns out this was lucky for me, because I then disconnected the generator.

 If you lose power during a storm or for any other reason, do not under any circumstance connect your computer to your back-up gasoline generator. You risk destruction of your PC and loss of all your data.

 Here in NJ, we got hit hard by hurricane Sandy. We lost power, Internet, cable TV, heat, and hot water for nearly a week. The power outage shut down my business for the week.

 Our home phones didn’t work, but fortunately my office phone is with another carrier and it did.

 There are worse things than losing power for a week, but it certainly ranks up there.

 Our gas generator produces sufficient power to run appliances other than computers, so we connected our refrigerator to it and our food didn’t spoil.

 Without TV and Internet, you feel alone in the dark, not knowing the status of the storm. Fortunately we could plug in my little boom box to the generator and keep up that way.

 (Without a generator, we wouldn’t have even had the radio. There had been a run on D batteries, and they were impossible to get.)

 Many others in NJ were not so lucky: we saw a long line of people at Lowe’s hoping there would be enough generators to go around.

 Even with a gas generator, your power is not assured, because what can you do when you can’t get gasoline? Most gas stations had either run out of gas or had no power to pump the gas they had.

 To conserve gasoline, we ran the generator intermittently. At night, we could see by candle light, and we hung out in front of a roaring fire.

 We are now getting quotes for a full-house, natural-gas-fired generator. I want to make sure my business is never affected by a power outage ever again.

 Some scientists predict these super storms will happen with increased frequency. Our experience supports that. We used to get one big storm here every 10 years. Now it seems to be an annual occurrence.

 I also learned something about me: if I can’t work and write every day, I become restless and jumpy. I am only relaxed and happy when I write every day.